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Your Wedding Day Essentials Bag – The Ultimate List…

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On your wedding day, you’ll want to have quick access to essential items in case you need to touch up your makeup or you have an unforeseen wardrobe malfunction. Happy relaxed brides are prepared brides so it makes sense to have your wedding day essentials bag planned. Pop these must-have items in a pretty tote bag and have ready for your Maid of Honour or someone else to dutifully look after for you. It’s instantly grabbable if anything uneventful happens. Drama over!

As a Kent wedding photographer, I have based this list on over 9 years of experience photographing weddings and observing what brides find useful to have on their wedding day. You might feel a couple of the items I have listed aren’t relevant to you and in that case, simply ignore. If it triggers one idea that you might not have thought about otherwise – I have done my job! 🤩

1/ Lipstick / Lip balm

Obviously you’ll want to touch up during the day however long lasting your lipstick promises to stay on for. Some make-up artists will recommend a balm you can use during the day as a top up. If you’re like me and bite your lip when nervous – lib balm is a total lifesaver!!!

2/ Gum or Mints

You’re in close contact with lots of people, kissing people, smooching your new hubby – feel good, look good 😉.

3/ Small sugary something / Mini Snack

This is going to seem weird…from experience, I have spotted a few brides have a bit of an energy dropage just before the ceremony. It’s a long, quite intense, maybe emotional morning. And it’s a long day. And many brides don’t eat much in the morning. I always carry with me for my brides an emergency bag of Cadbury’s buttons (and the Free From equivalent!). You’d be amazed how often they are called upon! I had a bride nearly faint during the registrar appointment just before her ceremony. A little bit of sugar can just help the energy levels.

Be direct with your bridesmaids and ask them to check your teeth after!

4/ Compact mirror

Just before key photography moments, when there are mini-breaks or just after eating – a compact mirror for teeth and make-up checks is a must-have for your wedding day essentials bag.

5/ Phone

Some brides love to abandon their phone for the day but others have comfort knowing they can make a quick call or locate someone if needs be. Don’t forget to make sure it’s fully on charge during your bridal preparation 😉.

6/ Blotting paper or powder

I would say this is essential during Spring & Summer weddings. However wonderful your make-up is – the external conditions and emotions will cause your make-up to move. Blotting paper is a godsend with any sweaty patches. Between us girls – I get a sheen at the top of my lips when I get over hot so having some blotting paper and powder ready to hand on my wedding day was a lifesaver!!!

7/ Mini deodorant / Body mist

Especially for Spring / Summer wedddings, a quick spritz to avoid being a sweaty betty is so useful.

8/ Mini stain remover stick

I never knew that you could get mini stain remover sticks that are an amazing quick fix when wearing a white dress / for bridesmaids wearing light bright colours if an unexpected event occurs. I have seen several brides carry this instant stain remover from Amazon.

9/ Safety pins

There is always a chance you can have a wardrobe malfunction with so much movement you make in a dress you’ve not worn before except in a bridal dressing room. Make sure you have a few safety pins so your Maid of Honour, friend, mother or photographer(!) can quickly fix you up. I see this happen sometimes with wedding trains when the fastening designed to hoist it up can unexpectedly pop off / fail to do its job. Never mind – safety pin to the rescue!

10/ Spare hair pins

Hair moves during the day so having a spare hair pin can be a super quick fix to nip away a couple of strands. I keep a handful in my camera bag and they get nabbed all the time!!!

11/ Tissue or Handkerchief

No one wants to see Uncle Bill’s manky old snotty tissue passed to a key member of your wedding party if they burst into tears / need to clear away the sobs of emotion.

A beautiful white handkerchief looks super classy and classic in your wedding photos. Or equally a nice clean Kleenex. 

Trust me – someone is going to need it at some point!

12/ Cotton ear buds

Not just for babies! Cotton buds can come in handy for your makeup touch ups. You can also use them to remove your eye makeup and get rid of ‘panda eyes’ super fast.

The caveat on this one is that everyone has their own way of tweaking and cleaning up make-up misdemeanours. Use whatever works for you and you’re used to doing – but make sure it’s in your cute tote wedding day essentials bag 😉.

Some brides find facial spritz works well to freshen up in the heat.

13/ Make-up sponge (and maybe some concealer)

If cotton buds don’t do it for you, your trusty make-up sponge or beauty blender (what I use!) can quickly sort out make-up movement very delicately. 

If you know you’re likely to be emotional, maybe have more of your make-up that your artist has used and recommended and carrying concealer could be helpful to touch-up too.

14/ Paracetamol

Tension and relief headaches are very common at weddings. Handy to have for yourself, your new hubby or anyone else in the bridal party to quickly get rid of that headache.

15/ Tampons

Trying to avoid getting overly personal – if you’re slightly unpredictable don’t risk your white dress!!! And you might be doing one of your bridal party (who have been so wrapped up in you!) a mighty favour.

16/ Bottle of water

It’s a good idea to have it during moments where you might not have access to it (as well as drinking it, it can be very handy for cleaning away sudden muck on shoes too!). Being a boring mum for a minute, if you’re drinking fizz in the morning and a bit nervous during the bridal prep, having some water to counteract the alcohol is probably a good idea.

Good-luck with all your planning. I hope this has provided food for thought to feel comfortable on your wedding day by having the right essentials and contingencies in place. Let me know in the comments below if it’s been helpful to you or indeed, if you have anything to add!

Best wishes, Victoria xxx

p.s If you’ve enjoyed reading this blog, you might like to read all about Ten Tips for Getting The Best Morning Bridal Prep Shots.

Bride and Groom walking with best man and bridesmaids at socially distant wedding in Tonbridge, Kent

Socially distanced wedding photos can be special

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At the time of typing about socially distanced wedding photos, it is the end of June 2021. And we’re all waiting for Boris to issue an update on whether all covid restrictions will cease next month. 

You might be thinking or hoping that you won’t need to worry about socially distanced wedding photos. 

However, I am finding a lot of my couples are still discussing this with me well into Summer 2021 due to elderly relatives or friends / family with underlying health conditions. For some, there will still be a comfort found in maintaining social distance.

Therefore, I wanted to share three examples from a recent wedding on how you can make sure your wedding group photos don’t look like The Usual Suspects line up! I aim to demonstrate that socially distanced wedding photos can absolutely be special.

Personally, I hate line-ups in wedding photography! It rarely works or looks good.

1. Start walking!

Walking shots are amazing anyway as in general, people feel more comfortable and less conscious if they are doing something as opposed to standing still and false grinning.

Walking looks natural, people look better and you can cleverly ask your photographer to create the social distance via VERTICAL DEPTH of 1 metre+ rather than horizontal line-ups.

Movement is lovely in wedding pictures. Traditionally, you don’t tend to get groups to walk but it can work a treat – like below with the bestsman and bridesmaids.

This would also have looked good with couples holding hands at different depths.

Bride and Groom walking with best man and bridesmaids at socially distant wedding in Tonbridge, Kent

2. Take a step back from the bride and groom.

Get parents / grandparents to step back to create the illusion of less space between households.

You’ve got the message by now that I hate line-ups for photography. So below, I asked the bride and groom to go forward so when the sets of parents dropped back by a metre they could go closer to to the bride and groom horizontally. I think this works a treat as you don’t get the sense there is an awkward space between households. It is vital both sets on either side of bride and groom partake otherwise. 1) The lack of symmetry doesn’t look great, 2) It looks like you’ve fallen out with one set of parents!

Bride and groom socially distant group shot with parents at St Stephen's Church in Tonbridge, Kent

3/ Turn your back to the camera and look behind

My bride loved the back of her dress (I can’t blame her – it was totally stunning!) And she wanted to showcase the bouquets too. We looked at images we liked on pinterest and came up with this natty way of really bringing out the details – all socially distanced.

Without any covid considerations or restrictions in place, this is a nice way of spotlighting the bride and the details.

Bride with bridesmaids portrait at Tonbridge wedding in Kent

In conclusion…

I really hope this helps with planning your wedding photography. I have noticed there aren’t that many examples of socially distanced photos on pinterest et al. I’m quite proud with this May 2021 wedding and how we worked through these challenges. I hope it provides some reassurance if you’re looking for ways to comfort guests and still have special group shots.

If you’d like to see Naomi & Owain’s May 2021 full wedding gallery, click here.

Because love can’t be cancelled!

Victoria xx

If you’d like to read a full wedding guide covering socially distanced inspiration and information beyond photography, this guide might be helpful to you – Guide for Brides: ‘How to have a great socially distanced wedding’.

Kent wedding photographer Victoria Green based in Tonbridge

5 Things You Must Tell Your Wedding Photographer

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Okay, ‘5 Things You Must Tell Your Wedding Photographer’ sounds a bit dramatic. I wouldn’t have used the word ‘must’ if I hadn’t felt from my experience as a professional photographer, that if you can remember to do these things it will truly benefit your experience. It’s easy to forget in the midst of intense wedding planning to keep communication flowing with your suppliers. But I promise by doing this, you’ll foster fantastic relationships where they’ll understand your needs. And most importantly, you’ll get the best photographs. 

1. Be honest about awkward family members.

My mum always says ‘forearmed is forewarned’. And there’s no better way to explain the massive benefit that comes from having an open relationship where you share awkward family members with your photographer. If you’ve got an extremely interfering Auntie, a Granny that’s likely to take over your planned and agreed shot list. Or a drunken Uncle Bob who annoyingly tries to get in every picture. Please tell us! Experienced photographers have seen all sorts of quirky behaviour (let’s politely call it that) and have dealt with zesty, demanding characters plenty of times. Letting us know in advance can be massively helpful. Why? Because we can work with you to manage big characters so they don’t call the shots on your special day. Give us the info and we can work together to manage and negotiate so everyone is kept happy.

2. Share what your other suppliers are doing on the day.

Knowing if you’ve booked a videographer can really help your photographer – especially when checking out the venue at your pre-meeting. A photographer will have a slightly different plan of angle capture if they know a videographer, for example, is in the middle of the aisle.

Working closely with videographers and being partnered with the lovely Aidan Willis (videographer) – I will be aware of keeping the clicks managed and where my movements are most respectful so you’re photography and videography are the best they can be.

Equally, if a singing waiter is about to burst into song and jump out from the under the table, letting your photographer know is so helpful as we will be in a killer position to capture everyone’s reactions.

3. Share all crucial timings and events – including surprises!

Maybe you’ve heard the story of the bride who forgot to tell her photographer that she was throwing her bouquet at an unconventional time. The poor photographer was in the toilet having a quick wee…and you get the idea! Basically I have nightmares about this type of thing and I don’t want it to happen to me.

Many couples plan surprises for their guests – from singing waiters, confetti cannons, surprise guests from overseas to choreographed dancing. Some of these are planned very last minute. Don’t keep them a surprise from your photographer who is an eager beaver to capture absolutely everything. We are ready for the unexpected but knowing in advance massively helps the set-up (and when you’re only 5ft5, it helps me get in front of all the tall rugby player guests before the big reveal!!!)

4. Don’t forget to advise if your home address changes.

Sounds obvious. But 100% of my couples to date who have changed their home address between signing their contract with me and when I’m due to post out their beautiful USB have forgotten to tell me!

Completely understandable given contracts are often written a while ago and they’re so busy.

I now ask every couple just before send out 😉.

5. Share anything personal that will affect how you feel about your pictures.

If you don’t like something about yourself physically…share it.

This is difficult for a lot of people. For others its simple and very quickly it emerges they hate their fat back or double chin. I ask in a very sensitive way during my pre-meetings. But I know many photographers who feel uncomfortable being personal and instead wait for it to be volunteered. Please share. You have spent a lot of money on your wedding photography – it’s so important you love your pictures. It is often subtle things that we won’t know about unless you tell us. For example, no-one else sees it but you could be the best photographer on the planet but if you took a picture of my side profile, I would hate it!!! Everyone is different.

If you hate a mole / have some acne etc, be upfront if you’d like the photographer to do minor retouching. I never assume retouching nor make a judgment. You need to tell me if you hate a freckle on the end of your nose. Otherwise I won’t know it bothers you!

If you have a personal situation that will affect your wedding…share it.

Please also share if you have a personal situation that you might be worried about on your wedding day. For example, I had a bride whose mother was extremely ill and the wedding was going to be the last time many of her family would see her. Sharing that with me, led to a very productive and sensitive conversation around people’s reactions – when and when not to capture photos. Another one of my brides has shared she is worried about her son on the autism spectrum as he doesn’t like having his photograph taken. I am delighted she shared that with me. I have years of experience photographing children and couples on the spectrum. And through that conversation, we have arranged some playdates where I can support the family and familiarise her little boy with me and my cameras. And we have a plan set out on how we can reduce anxiety on the day. 

If there’s one thing you prioritise above all things (after loving the pictures obviously) choose a photographer you’re comfortable with and you can have this open conversation. It will make a world of difference .

Hope you’ve found ‘5 things you must tell your wedding photographer’ helpful 😊.

Good-luck with your planning, Victoria xxx

p.s. as always – if you’d like to ask questions or talk to me about your wedding, you can message me and we can arrange a good time to have a chat ☕️❤️📞.

Victoria is a featured photographer on Hitched.

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bride having blusher applied during bridal prep at The Old Rectory at Hartwell House in Buckinghamshire

Ten tips for getting the best morning bridal prep…

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Did you know there are 10 things you can do which will help you and your photographer get the best morning bridal prep shots?

Hopefully these will act as little reminders to help your bridal prep run smoothly. And you’ll be super happy when you get to look at all your wedding photos.

My name is Victoria Green and I have over 8 years experience photographing weddings across the South East. I absolutely love capturing bridal prep. There’s a massive buzz of excitement, nerves and happiness in the air. It’s an intimate, special time for female bonding. I’m beyond privileged to capture the range of emotions I witness in just a few morning hours. 

Let’s jump straight in…

1/ Choose your room wisely

If you’re getting ready in a hotel or venue, you’ll hopefully have a nice spacious room. Remember there will be the people getting ready, potentially your make-up artist and hairdresser and invariably people come and go too.

If you have a choice – go for a nice big window or windows / where there is a lot of light as you’re make-up artist will be doing cartwheels. Plus your photography will look fantastic too. 

Spacious, light, airy rooms are great. Think about where your dress can hang. Plain, white backgrounds are fantastic for capturing your dress. 

If you’re getting ready in your house, brides often find their living room better because of the space / near a kitchen than in a bedroom. It may have better lighting too. 

2/ Position your dress for maximum effect

Have a think of where your dress can best hang. You need something that is long – a wardrobe is perfect. Occasionally a window hook can work or sometimes hotels have a suitcase on top of a wardrobe for maximum effect / and practicality.

Thinking about this before your bridal prep morning gives you one less thing to organise.

There might be an opportunity that is a bit unusual which you can think about and arrange with your photographer in your pre-meeting. Like these amazing mobile caravans – the bride wanted them hanging on the door. Letting your photographer know about this in advance is great planning. So everything can be managed including getting the dress in a safe place as soon as possible after the capture. 

close up of wedding dress hanging on retro rocket at Brook's Guest House in Bristol

⭐️Bonus tip⭐️ Think about your coat hangers. Often a wedding dress will come on a beautiful material hanger provided by the bridal shop. But this attention to luxury doesn’t always extend to the bridesmaids hangers. Plain hangers don’t do the dresses justice. There are some beautiful hangers you can purchase and personalised hangers with names engraved is massively popular at the moment. 

3/ Declutter

If you stayed the night before, it’s highly possible your room the next day could look like a bomb has gone off! Ensure to arrange room service to do bed sheets and empty bins nice and early. This is before your entourage of suppliers arrives.

I have had my fair share of doing the bins, clearing up wrappers, moving bottles and dirty plates resembling a teenager’s bedroom. But you’re paying your suppliers to make you look beautiful, so make sure their concentrating and spending the time doing just that.

It’s extraordinary how the good ole bag for life crops up in many a hotel room full of bridal accessories, last minute decorations for the tables and various contingency bags. Whether you’re in a hotel or in your house, work out a place where all the boxes and bags for life can be stashed.

Saying this, a cluttered mess that represents the day is fine like this marvellous scene here:

Bridal preparation candid shot captured at The Shelley's Hotel in Lewes, East Sussex

I love this as it shows a moment in time and it’s completely natural.

So I am not mascarading as the Cleaning Police. But you’ll notice there isn’t a cheeky Sainsbury’s bag for life nor ugly carrier bag in site. 

4/ Make a rule on where phone chargers go

This is the funniest phenomenon I have spotted in my years of capturing bridal prep! All plug sockets have wires going everywhere attached to phones. This isn’t always bad but can look a bit unseemly if there are wires trailing all over your beautiful demure pics of you relfecting your last moment before you become a Mrs. Delegate a place for phones to be charged and keep it that space for perfect piccies.

5/ Don’t leave out your tampax!

You might be shocked I am saying this. Sorry if you are. But consider what’s around your space. It’s incredible how a bright yellow tampax, box of immodiums, packet of ciggies makes it in to view. Of course, as documentary photographers we aren’t looking to clear the room of all life and make it a clinical set. But clearer decks means the pictures are more professional, less distracting and more timeless.

6/ Collate all your key details to be photographed in advance

Any key details you have discussed with your photographer you’d like captured, simply leave them in a designated space for them to snap away when they first arrive. This means you won’t be asked questions (when you’re busy and it’s unnecessary) and you’ll feel chilled you haven’t forgotten to bring anything. 

7/ Ask your photographer to turn up before anyone else

I always turn up before the make-up artist and hairdresser. The main reason for this is that most of the time, I am photographing in one room so the less people around trying to do their work, the easier it is for me to move around and capture the dress. You might have quite a few bridesmaids, I am already navigating not getting them in shot.

⭐️Bonus tip⭐️ Get your dress away from make-up and hairspray / products! Insects outside are magnetised to dresses with layers when misted with hairspray. You’ll find them getting inside all your lovely lacey bits. Whilst that’s super fun retouching for me (spot the sarcasm), removing little black dots from your dress, you want to be bug free quite frankly on the day you want to look your best.

Another reason the photographer turns up early is so they have taken the dress, accessories, shoes, etc. so when the hairdresser and make-up artist start, they don’t miss capturing the action.

8/ Make sure you have snacks / drinks

I’m being a bit of a nagging granny saying this, but it’s something lots of brides forget and then I end up feeling sorry for them, giving them my sandwiches and kitkats!

Yes – lots of brides don’t plan on eating something super carb-olicious before getting into a tight dress. But with nerves and it’s a big day, it’s really important to have something for energy. 

Plus, if you’re going to have a glass of fizz before you leave, it’s a good idea you’ve had a non-alcoholic beverage in the morning.

9/ Clear the room of people before getting the dress on

Aim for 1 person and leave a big reveal. It’s natural everyone wants to help you. But I often advise my brides at their pre-meeting to limit this to a mum, close friend or sister. First of all, it’s a bit calmer trying to get in to your dress. Your bridal shop will advise you to give plenty of time anyway as we’re not used to wearing dresses that intricately zip / button up!

Firstly, it’s a beautiful intimate moment I often see being shared between a mum and their daughter. But it also makes for much better pictures as you don’t have bodies covering the dress up and arms and hands all over the place. Just having one hand helping to do up the dress takes for a marvellous picture.

And then you have the added bonus that you get to do the big reveal – which is beyond nutty nut exciting! Your photographer can help manage this so you’re ready to reveal yourself at the best position and they can capture your dad’s reaction (often separately orchestrated) and then your bridesmaids / other relatives.

10/ Allow 45 mins – 1 hour to chill in your dress

The biggest tip I give to brides for their itinerary planning is allowing ample time to get into your dress before you need to leave. Firstly, things can sometimes take a little bit longer than you’ve planned. If you’ve allowed some contingency, it will make you feel far less stressed. And secondly, if all does go to plan which it’s likely to…you can have a glass of sparkly sit and breathe and take in all the morning. So many brides after have thanked me for suggesting this. They’ve said it gave them a moment to take things in, relfect, manage nerves and show their appreciation to their bridal party.

On a practical note, it also makes sure all the key morning bridal prep shots get taken before your photographer has to join the groom and his entourage before the ceremony. You want your photographer to be taking you getting into your dress and the reactions before they depart. So just make sure that is factored into your itinerary planning.

I really hope those bridal prep shot tips have helped forward planning and considerations so your bridal prep is relaxed, beautiful and wonderful. Everything you deserve it to be 😁.

Best wishes, Victoria xxx

p.s. as always – if you’d like to ask questions about bridal prep photography or talk to me about your wedding, you can message me and we can arrange a good time to have a chat ☕️❤️📞.

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Your Wedding Photography Contract & Covid-19

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I couldn’t find anything on Google search advising UK couples on what to look out for with their wedding photography contract in light of Covid-19. Sure, there’s lots of stuff kicking around on horrendous legal disputes between photographers and clients and some killer court cases in the US debating force majeure. But if you’re a bride now and your next step is booking a photographer, what should you be looking out for?

I am a wedding photographer based in Kent, capturing couples across the South East. During lockdown with the lack of shooting, I have spent lots of my time blogging on all topics related to wedding photography to help couples with their wedding planning journey.

In light of Covid-19, most photographers have had to amend their contracts to cover a further extent of eventualities. Many of us hadn’t previously featured ‘global pandemic’ in our possible contingencies. So there will be some new terms included in your wedding contract which you now need to think about and evaluate. These are there to protect you and your photographer which is great. They will probably answer your questions and should make you feel confident in signing the dotted line.

I am not a legal expert – obviously. I am a photographer and a mum and a terrible cook. But I have sought legal advice to get my wedding contract clear and fair for my couples in light of Covid-19 so I hope these tips help.

1/ Deposits / Booking Fees Clarified – Non-refundable?

Many photographers – me included – have changed from using the phraseology ‘deposit’ to the clearer use of ‘booking fee’. For most wedding suppliers, a ‘booking fee’ is reserving a particular service on a particular date. It is generally deemed earnt once the photographer stops advertising and stops taking bookings for that date. This is why the booking fee is generally considered ‘non-refundable’ because this part of the contract has been completed.

Did you notice I used the word ‘generally’ there!? Whilst the deposit is generally considered non-refundable, thanks to Covid this has created lots of questions and grey areas. What if my wedding has to be rescheduled? What if the photographer then can’t make my wedding? If my photographer offers a second photographer and they can’t make it, what happens to my deposit?

These are the questions you should absolutely be asking your photographer before you book with them. Although before covid, my booking fee was non-refundable absolute, I have had to consider these reasonable questions asked by couples and factor this into my contract to be fair and reasonable.

2/ So what if my wedding is rescheduled?

This is where photographers will differ. I know many that will charge an administration fee for rescheduling your wedding. Find this out before you book with them and decide how you feel about it (they will specify it in their contract – find out how much it is. If you love the photographer, maybe it’s a risk worth taking). Many photographers will charge a higher rate for moving from a weekday to a weekend.

I don’t offer an administration fee. Four of my couples have rescheduled three times with me already during the pandemic. But it doesn’t make someone a bad supplier for charging an administration fee. It only does if they don’t make you aware of it!

Okay – so you’ve found out if there is an administration fee or not. You reschedule your date and your back on track. But…….

3/ What happens if my photographer can’t make my rescheduled date?

This is a possibility. I have not been able to capture two of my couples that have booked with me. I was really really upset about it. They had rescheduled and rebooked their new date and I was already booked with another wedding. So the next thing for you to check is – what happens if your photographer can’t make the date.

Most photographers will offer an alternate photographer. In my case, I have an Associate Photographer and Second Photographer.

But, during these times, you can grill your photographer even harder. Actually, I insist you do!!!! A good photographer will be happy to be grilled and will have answers rolling off the tongue. You want that as it shows they have a planned contingency and they are managing you like a professional should.

So, let’s use me as a typical example – with one of my couples, I sadly informed them I couldn’t do their wedding. I put them in touch with my Associate Photographer. They got on like a storm. I kept the booking deposit. The couple were happy with the replacement and taking the stress away. They will pay the remaining balance to my Associate 6 weeks before their big day. My Associate sent a new contract with her details on. Considering it was an unfortunate situation, it all ended very well.

But…let’s grill even harder! Because this is your money and you need to know worst case scenario (well I was that sort of bride anyway!!!) What would have happened if my photographer couldn’t step in and she was booked too?

4/ What happens if there is no resolution in re-booking after all proposed attempts?

There are a few reasons there might not be a resolution. The photographer can’t make the revised date and doesn’t have an alternative person to offer. You might not be bothered about meeting / chatting to an alternative photographer and want to research a new photographer independently. The second photographer initially offered may not be available. 

This is where you need to see what your photographer has put in place in your contract so you know your position. Many photographers will stipulate, if there has been a reasonable effort to provide a replacement, then the booking deposit is kept by the photographer. 

Personally, if someone has given me ample notice, I haven’t been able to make their alternative date suggestions, if my second photographer isn’t available – I offer 50% of the booking deposit back to my couples. I am a softie but I feel it’s reasonable if they have given me a few options to keep me. 

I view the 50% I have kept as my holding the date and not booking business (as a loss really) and the administration of drafting contracts, conversations and time spent. It would be reasonable to take the full booking fee and technically, I believe I would be entitled. But I feel (and this is very personal), it is so rubbish for couples having to rebook and replan and so devastating for them, it’s my way of showing I am meeting them half way. Trying to keep goodwill.

5/ What if I have to cancel my wedding?

It’s a bit more clearcut if you have to cancel your wedding. Most photographers will stipulate in their contract – as I do – that 100% of the booking fee must be paid.

My top tip for good relations with your photographer (and its something that I stipulate in my contract for clarity) is that ‘reasonable attempt’ needs to be made to let me know in advance and to where possible, offer a short list of dates rather than just one. I think during these times, trying to keep communication open and transparent is key. My bride the other day whats apped me for her date this year and shared she’s been thinking of rescheduling and has a couple of other dates in mind. Having great relationships with your suppliers (and the key is choosing as wisely as you can at the start by asking the right questions) ensures as much as possible, if you encounter pickles along the way – an amicable resolution can be met.

Final Thoughts…

I really hope this has given you some food for thought on what to ask your photographer before booking so you can book with confidence. If there’s anything I haven’t answered, feel free to mention in the comments below. I will endeavour to get back to you with a response – or at least advise how I do things in my business.

This link from the Gov website is super useful for in-depth reading on wedding suppliers and terms of refunds, you might want to look at. The Competiton and Markets Authority (CMA) have provided guidance good suppliers should be following on how to operate during covid-19.

And of course, you can message me if you’re interested in me being your photographer. I would love to hear from you 🙂.

Have fun booking!

Victoria xx

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Should I bother with an engagement shoot?

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Lots of couples openly ask me, “Should I bother with an engagement shoot?” I’m going to share with you both the pros and cons so you can decide if it’s something you’d like to bother with 😊.

My name is Victoria Green and I am a documentary wedding photographer based in Kent with over 8 years experience. As well as being a professional photographer, I publish my observations on wedding photography to help give couples practical advice.

The Pros

1/ For some camera shy couples, it can help you feel more comfortable in front of the camera.

If you feel a little bit shy or feel nervous about how you’ll be directed on your wedding day, an engagement shoot can be the perfect way to ease you in. My couples that are anxious about being photographed, are surprised that they enjoy themselves and they don’t feel bossed around or embarrassed in anyway. That’s because, if you’re going for a natural storytelling (or documentary) photographer like myself – you will be getting on with your own business and your photographer will be snapping away. You look comfortable and you look natural which means you look your best. 

However, there is a balance. And a really good documentary photographer won’t just be passive and disappear and let you go completely off on your merry way. They’ll advise on the lighting opportunities, the best backdrop possibilities and they’ll gently and kindly art direct you. 

The ‘little nuggets’ (as I call them) of practical advice you pick up on your engagement shoot, you naturally find yourself doing on your wedding day.

2/ Get to know your photographer better.

My engagement shoots are extremely informal so lots of chatting and often end in tea and cake! It gives you a huge opportunity to visually show your photographer what you like and don’t like about being photographed. Or maybe it’s just personal things (I hate my side profile, for example. No-one else will see it but it’s personal to me and I don’t like photographs that get my side).

But let’s not over egg this either. Yes, it gives a big opportunity to chat and share with your photographer and get to know them better. But my couples who are camera shy and decide not to have a pre-shoot still have ample time to chat to me, share any concerns and feel they know me pretty well.

It’s just an ADDITIONAL opportunity. And it can really help and provide reassurance to some couples to feel a wee bit more relaxed.

3/ Lots of couples love the time together and thoroughly enjoy it.

Most of my couples are a little bit nervous when they first meet me for their engagement shoot. They don’t know what to expect as its feel weird being the centre of attention. To date, I have never had a couple who have not enjoyed the experience. It is better to get those nerves of the unexpected done and out the way and then it’s one less thing to worry about on your wedding day. 

Most couples love getting ‘dulled up’ and end up having lots of fun. What’s not to enjoy? We go to your favourite local beauty spot, go for a lovely walk, I don’t get you to do anything you’re not comfortable with. You can see my couples look giggly, happy, loved up and relaxed. It is a lovely way to mark your engagement as part of the wedding planning journey. Many couples love sharing those pictures with their family and friends.

4/ You can incorporate your photos as fantastic personalised stationary on your wedding day.

There are fantastic ways to incorporate your engagement photographs into your wedding stationary. I have seen my engagement pics used on my couples’ wedding invites, save the dates, menus and table plan. It adds a real personalised touch!

The Cons

1/ The Expense

For some couples, it’s simply an extra expense to the wedding budget. It isn’t an essential but a nice to have. 

2/ It could feel like an unnecessary extra trauma if you’re very shy or dread having your picture taken!

Not everyone who is camera shy / doesn’t like their picture being taken, will want to go through the ordeal twice with two photo shoots. And that’s fair enough. A good, understanding photographer will understand this and there should be zero pressure. There are lots of things a photographer can incorporate into your pre-meeting / the wedding itself, to make you feel more comfortable. Look for a photographer that is patient and understanding. I passionately believe only comfortable couples look comfortable and get the resulting best pictures. The focus should all be around what makes YOU happy.

3/ There might be a personal reason why you don’t feel it is necessary. 

Couples who have been engaged a very long time, have children or been married before sometimes feel less inclined to mark their engagement with a pre-shoot. That’s perfectly fine! Everyone is different how much fuss they’d like made.

I hope that’s given you a balanced view on the pros and cons on whether you should bother with an engagement shoot.

If you’ve enjoyed reading this blog and it’s been helpful, I’d really appreciate a comment in the below box. If you have any questions about whether to bother with an engagement shoot, do feel free to message me. Or pop them in the comments and I’ll do my best to answer them.

Do what’s best for you and enjoy!

Victoria xxx

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bride shares a loving embrace with a friend just after her wedding ceremony at Lewes Register Office

6 Reasons To Choose Documentary Wedding Photography

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There are some very good reasons why you may want to consider documentary wedding photography as your style of choice. However, these are all reliant on what type of bride or groom you are.

Stop reading if you:

✔️Are looking to be centre of attention.

✔️Want to feel like a celebrity for the day.

✔️Want to feel the heat of an artificial light on your cheeks.

✔️Love the idea of being paparazzied for the day.

There’s nothing wrong with this whatsoever. But, it’s probably not the right style for you 🙂

Keep reading if:

✔️You’re someone who is maybe a bit camera shy or feels a bit awkward in front of the camera. 

✔️You don’t mind having your picture taken but you want the photography to not dominate your day and you want to focus on the wedding itself.

✔️You love the idea of all the details of your day and emotions being captured.

✔️You’d like your wedding pics to be a reflection of what actually happened and what things looked like (as opposed to something being artificially created or staged).

Just to clear up one thing before we begin. Documentary, Photo journalism, Reportage are all the same thing (it’s just a matter of how posh and arty you want to sound!) 

My name is Victoria Green and I have been a photographer capturing couples in Kent and the South East for over 8 years. I personally like to use the word ‘Natural Storytelling’ to describe my style (documentary) because I find it a bit clearer, a wee bit magical-sounding and self-explanatory but everyone to their own…

So why should you choose documentary wedding photography?

1/ Every detail is captured.

In a nutshell, documentary photography is all about capturing all the details, all the emotions, all the wedding guests and all the moments as they unfold. 

When you get your wedding pictures, it will then feel like you have a total memory of everything that happened on the day.

When my parents got married, the only choice of photography was traditional shots which was were all staged formal group pictures. A documentary photographer will happily still cover these shots (and most couples from my experience would like some formal group shots covered). But, we cover the whole shibang as well. For instance, all the lovely little details – your dress, your shoes, the jewellery, the cake, the wedding favours, the decorations and the table layouts. The big emotions – when a dad claps first eyes on the bride or when the groom turns and sees his bride walking up the aisle. BUT also the smaller emotions too. For example – a wedding guest drying a tear during a wedding speech, a little bridesmaid yawning at the vicar’s sermon or a cousin laughing his bottom off during the reception.

2/ All the raw emotions are captured.

Documentary photography tells your story exactly as it happened. Capturing these raw emotions is a GENUINE and TRUTHFUL recount of your day. Because of this, my couples tell me they look back on their photographs as cherished MEMORIES of what everything FELT on the day.

Nothing is off bounds for the documentary photographer – we cover all the emotions. All the highs and lows. Because your wedding wasn’t a set on a magazine cover. Your photos will therefore be a TOTAL REFLECTION of what happened. Because real weddings are made up of a dynamic range of emotions.

3/ If you’re camera shy or feel a bit awkward being centre of attention.

Documentary photography is perfect for camera shy couples. Or simply if you’re not a fan or feel a wee bit awkward. A good professional photographer will help put you at ease and make you feel comfortable in front of the camera. So you won’t be forced, as I call it, into ‘lock jaw’ like Wallace & Gromit.

Instead, the pressure is off. You can relax and rest in the knowledge beautiful pictures are being taken without you consciously trying to look beautiful.

Most people look better and at their best when they are being photographed ‘naturally’ – i.e. not posing or they weren’t aware the photographer was there.

This is why I go for ‘walk and talk’ pictures at almost every wedding. I am at a distance, the couple has no posing instructions. They simply chat after the ceremony with a beautiful backdrop and I expertly capture it. Done. 

4/ You and your guests won’t be bothered / bullied by the photographer.

I was once a guest at a wedding during a heat wave in Kent. The photographer made all of us sit with empty glasses while he spent forever and a day getting people to pose on steps. There was every combination imaginable. Everyone was slagging off the photographer and moaning about him!

Most of the time – with the exception of the formal group shots – your guests can simply enjoy the wedding day and everything you’ve planned for them.

Lots of people don’t like having their picture taken and they silently dread wedding photographs! Therefore, having a documentary wedding photographer, gives your guests the space to enjoy your day.

A good professional photographer will offer some gentle art direction. They will also judge the mood and if it’s a good time to do it.

5/ You get to see things you didn’t know happened!

As documentary photographers are stealth walking ninjas – we are everywhere and anywhere. We get to capture things you weren’t aware of at the time. You may have not been physically there. So these photos will make up the complete story so you’re now in the know. Or alternatively, you might not have been aware your photographer was capturing it (we have amazing skills to blend into the background!) It is often these little moments that convey in a photograph, the sheer happiness of the day.

6/ Capturing the most comfortable, best looking version of you.

I believe passionately that comfortable, happy, relaxed people look like themselves. Furthermore, they look their best. Most people (excluding models) look better when they don’t know their picture is being taken or when they aren’t being asked to pose.

I hope that’s given you some reassurance and good reasons to choose documentary wedding photography as your preferred style.

Now you need to choose the right documentary photographer, you might also find this blog useful “How to choose the right documentary photographer”.

If you’d like to chat to see if we would be a good fit, then I’d love to hear from you. Send me a message to arrange a chat.

Found this blog helpful? I would love to hear in the comments below. Thank you 😁

Victoria is featured on Hitched, Wedding Planner & Bridebook.

Good-luck! Victoria xx

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Kent wedding photographer Victoria Green based in Tonbridge, Kent

8 Wedding Photography Details You Haven’t Thought About

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Incorporating these 8 wedding photography details into your planning will make your final pictures better. Some, a good professional photographer will have down to a tee (but it’s good to be aware of). And others you can decide for yourself and direct your photographer at your pre-meeting….

My name is Victoria Green and I am a featured wedding photographer with over 9 years experience shooting weddings across the South East.

1/ ** Interesting Fact **

The most awkward physical thing I observe shooting weddings:

People don’t know where to put their arms &

what to do with their hands.

A group of men altogether for a group shot, always put their hands in front of their crutch! I can only imagine it’s a natural psychological engrained thing in them to protect themselves. But it looks weird in pictures.

A good photographer will be used to this and encourage chaps to put their hands behind their back. The benefit of this is that it also bridges the gap between bodies so your group shots don’t have people with awkward spaces between them.

groom with ushers at Cuddington Church in Buckinghamshire

In another example, I encouraged these chaps to hold a lovely glass tankard, part of the vintage theme of the wedding. They instantly looked more relaxed having their picture taken as it didn’t feel so formal and stiff.

groom with best men at vintage wedding in Bromely, Kent

My gorgeous shy groom below, felt more comfortable in the couple portrait shots with a champagne glass in his hand as he had something to hold. And the pictures look more natural thanks to it. It’s a very subtle thing but it made a difference.

Lots of grooms benefit in group shots by holding the bride’s bouquet. It gets them closer to the bride which works well and again, it sorts the awkward stray limp arm!

Other times this rule goes out the window and it works for some chaps to have their arm by their side – it all depends how comfortable you feel with your picture being taken. This picture is a lovely candid shot – the father of the groom is happy holding his tankard and the chaps are all doing casual things which works because they are comfortable.

father of the bride with wedding guests at Smarden countryside village in Kent

2/ Take your phone out of your pocket.

Everyone puts their phone in their pockets these days. It creates a weird bump one side which can spoil the silhouette of your body in pictures. It’s even worse when chaps put their wallet on the other side. The clown big side trousers look doesn’t work for anyone!

Make a plan for the both of you on who is looking after anything essential you may need. It’s your wedding day – a nominated person should do all the carrying!

3/ Watch out for that Sainsbury’s bag!

Wedding guests purchase these gorgeous little dinky designer purses. They look amazing. They match outfits. But they quickly discover they hold diddly squat in them! And they end up having a spare bag for all sorts of other knick knacks they might need. 

Your photographer should be seriously on it and will spot funny stray carrier bags / any bags other than cute accessories that attempt to make their way cunningly into your group shots.

Guests with kids, of course are the worst offenders. I have been one. You have several contingency bags for things to keep them amused, spare clothes, etc and you end up lugging them around with you all day.

My two worst offending cases – I have spotted a Sainsbury’s Bag for Life right next to the couple during a ceremony (whoever put it there!?). And even worse, I had to delicately manage an Auntie who was holding her Waitrose carrier bag in a group shot!

a big cross over sainsburys bag of life appearing in your photos!
You would be amazed how many times the Bag for Life attempts to creep into group wedding shots! Your wedding pro will be on it! Choose someone who you can tell has an eye for detail.

4/ Everyone wears sunglasses on a hot day.

Does this bother you in your group photographs?

For my Summer weddings, I specifically ask this level of detail in our pre-meeting. I have friends that are quite upset all their group pics have everyone with sunglasses so they aren’t as recognisable.

Some couples don’t care. It’s a personal choice.

If you would prefer group shots without people wearing sunglasses – I personally do and usually recommend it – that can easily be managed by your photographer.  I never photograph group shots in harsh sun and I photograph with the sun in front of me so it’s my problem not people squinting looking weird. So no one to date has ever had an issue with my asking to remove their sunglasses.

Decide what your view is and tell your photographer.

5/ ** Top Tip Coming Up **

Manage your confetti shot so it is the last shot in your formal group shot list.

If you’re doing it at the church and then going to the reception for group shots this doesn’t matter as the confetti will have fallen off by then. But if you have your confetti shot and directly go to group shots….your guests could look like they have severe dandruff!

Of course a photographer can retouch lots of micro confetti particles. But they might not / might miss one / why not go for the easier option!?

6/ Chaps should have their buttons undone for formal photographs if they are wearing waistcoats. 

I am not saying this as I am an old you-know-wotsit and entrenched in tradition. I am saying it because it is so much more flattering when you have your arms behind your back to not have a gape where your waistcoat is being stretched. Even slim jims look better when there is less constriction on clothing. Trust me – there is nothing worse than a group of guys looking like their clothes don’t fit and they are about to burst! Not the cool suave look you were hoping for with your wedding photos….

7/ ** KEY INSIGHT **

People go nutty nuts with their mobile phones when the bride walks down the aisle.

This is one for you to consider and manage. I am seeing more and more couples ask guests to not take photos with their mobiles at the start of the ceremony. Why? Because the best photographer in the world at the end of the aisle, will not get a beautiful pic of the bride walking down the aisle if everyone on the end stretches out their arms holding a tablet / mobile phone. It can potentially ruin this key moment.

If you don’t mind and you want everyone to have that freedom – then that’s a choice.

If like a lot of couples you want this captured professionally then you can:


Ask the celebrant, registrar or vicar to announce directly before the ceremony begins that the couple have asked you don’t take photos and there is a professional doing it.

Usually they will also say, “There will be a time after the photographer has taken pictures of the couple fake signing the register, that you can then go up and take a picture”.


More couples are putting a notice in their order of service or posters in frames in front of the ceremony room asking guests to please refrain from mobile phone pics.

Unplugged wedding poster
Source: The Wedding Play Book

For inspiration and ideas on communicating to your guests an ‘unplugged wedding’, this blog from The Wedding Play Book is really helpful – click here.

Equally, if you go to Google images or pinterest and type ‘unplugged wedding signs’ there’s lots of different messages in different styles for inspiration. 

8/ Don’t plan in your itinerary any form of eating during the speeches.

Thankfully, all my couples that planned for dessert during the speeches have been convinced by my persuading them, that this is detrimental to their wedding photographs.

Speech photos are some of my favourite. You can’t beat taking pictures of people absolutely laughing their heads of. And then there’s sometimes tear jerking moments, big bear hugs – speeches cover all the emotions to guarantee beautiful candid, natural wedding photographs. But if Auntie Maud has her chops full of Eton mess or strawberry cheesecake, you’d wish she had not been laughing! Your pictures will never be good with fragments of food around people’s mouths or worse off, big puffy hamster cheeks. What a waste of such an incredible moment.

No matter what the venue says about timings, control and manage your itinerary so there is no eating during speeches. 

I’ve saved the best tip until last! I promise you’ll thank me for it.

Let’s leave this look to the hamsters!

I hope you’ve found these tips useful. Some might seem a bit minor but each of them really makes a difference to the quality of your wedding photographs. And you should have the best.

If you’ve enjoyed reading this blog, feel free to let me know your feedback in the comments below.

Victoria is featured on Hitched, Wedding Planner & Bridebook.

Victoria xx

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